“A friend may well be reckoned a masterpiece of nature”. Emerson wrote.
death of a friend or family member leaves you alone. obviously i guess, but since my mom died shortly before thanksgiving i realize i have no parent on the planet. this is scary.
we had a memorial service for her of which i recounted a time line of her life which will be coming out in pieces in following blogs. the best thing that carried me through the delivery was having friends in the audience. family and fiends let me not distance family from friends. friends from my current job and friends who have been around my family for years.
the biggest catalyst for a weeping spell is looking at cards different people have sent. it’s not the card so much as who took the time to send one. and its left me in honor of them being in my court. then i feel guilty of course because i don’t usually send cards.
my grower friends at work. they would say i am their boss and friend i just think friend then boss. but non the less there are 7 besides me. i was quite thrilled they came five came , one was on vacation in Cambodia. when i started speaking the last one came in and i felt complete. we have started doing things together after work for the last couple years so we have developed a comfort level of just hanging out.
so i feel blessed that i have friends in so many arenas. horticulture world-wide and local,co workers, church , and past friends of decades. and even some friends in the family circles.
the main lesson learned is that we are not ment to live in isolation. but its a gift to give your self to some one and to recieve. relationships are a mess but they are worth makeing.