I attended a grief share meeting last night. I attended because i get ambushed allot. A song, a noise, a sight repels me down the cliff of sobbing.This is all normal, they say, and i believe them. But it’s true I have to redefine normal.
Normal now is different. I don’t have to get my mom toothpaste, or visit her or go to monthly care meetings. Normal is now my mom is not this handicapped lady in a wheel chair but a walking lady praising Jesus. normal for me is still being derailed by a song. Music so identifies a person with a place and time.
When mom had her 50 year anniversary of praise for surviving this long. The anniversary was a look at the car accident that broke her neck and paralyzed part of her body leaving her handicapped. The event was at her church in Seminole Florida. She sang a song from her wheel chair. Just give me Jesus.
normal for me is realizing guilt is really ridiculous to hold on to. All parents are not that great at everything all the time. When a christian dies and sees Jesus the person is whole un hindered from the lousy jerk they where on earth. I’m not saying my mom was lousy , its me and my relationship to her was not always pure so it didn’t get fixed before she died. and i think its not about between her and me that my attitude needs to be fixed but between me and Jesus.
Ive never thought Heaven will be like a walk down memory lane asking questions of what people did or said or ment. I don’t think we will be anything like we expect. I think what ever it will look like God will be so happy to get us with out the cloak of sin derailing our worship of him.
Redefine normal The relationship is gone. mother son relationship. Its a void, normal is living with a void. and Understanding a new normal relationship. still figuring it out